Maintaining an exhilarating and exciting sex life isn't as easy as the movies make it seem. After work, we're not always willing to jump in the sack for a heated session of love-making. Imagination is critical to keeping things interesting in the bedroom and when you're feeling tired, it's tough to get your creative juices flowing.
When you and your partner are feeling frisky, know which tactics and techniques to use to make the sex more interesting. Find out what your lover likes, doesn’t like, and is open to trying. The more you know about your partner’s sexual needs, the more you’ll be able to fulfil those desires. Start by experimenting and pay attention to your partner.
Experiment with different toys. Vibrators, handcuffs, and flavoured lubricants are only a few of the sex toys that make sexual activity more entertaining. One prop in particular that will arouse and tease your partner is a blindfold. When an individual’s senses are obstructed, the other senses become more sensitive. Increase sensory awareness by blindfolding your lover. He or she will never know what part of the body you're going to caress next. Practice teasing with an object such as a feather, a vibrator, or your lips. Be soft and sensual and experiment over different areas of the body. Don't pay attention to one spot for too long, or else the sensation will become less intense. Also, remember not to jump straight to the genital region as it's foreplay that builds anticipation.
Take turns giving massages. Massages are sensual, relaxing, and may help to increase your intimate bond with your partner. After our daily routine, our bodies become tense. Make your partner feel appreciated by offering a massage. Start with massage oil on the neck, shoulders, and back, and slowly work your way to the inner thighs. Don't get your lover too relaxed though, or else a passionate session of love-making will turn into a falling asleep on you session. After the massage, perform oral sex or ask your lover to return the favour by caressing your body.
Discuss your fantasies with one another. Sit back with a couple beers or a few glasses of wine and start talking. Communication is key when it comes to a relationship, not to mention, sharing your most intimate fantasies may be a turn-on for your partner. Not only will you strengthen your sexual bond, but you may be surprised to learn of your lover’s sexual fantasies. Even if you consider said fantasies a bit extreme or odd, don't downplay your partner’s desires. Also, avoid revealing amazing fetishes or fantasies about individuals you know in real life unless you know that your partner will be receptive. If you're unsure, it's probably best to keep them to yourself. Use your imagination to keep the discussion sexy and arousing. Who knows? Maybe one day your companion will attempt to fulfil one of your fantasies. If not, you’ll still know more about what your partner likes when you’re getting down and dirty.
Talk dirty to your partner. While it may seem silly, corny, or awkward at first, dirty talk can really turn your partner on, especially in the heat of the moment. Try whispering your partner’s name when you're in the middle of sex to evoke emotion. Interestingly enough, dirty talk doesn't have to be limited to the bedroom. While you're at a restaurant, try quietly describing, in your lover’s ear, what you want to do when you get home. Keep in mind, however, that talking dirty may lead to laughter if you take things too far.
Try different sex positions. Sometimes couples are so overworked that they end up “doing the deed” the same way every time: missionary. Instead of sticking to the same boring routine, try your hand at some new sex positions. Some ideas include side-to-side, doggy style, or standing up. Alternatively, you could try having sex using sex furniture or in a new area, such as on the kitchen counter or in the shower. Switching things up is fresh, exciting, and a change from the ordinary romp in the bedroom.
When you and your partner are both in the mood for sex, knowing how to intensify the situation will make for some mind-blowing intimacy. Implementing stimulating aspects will keep your partner guessing and wondering what other tricks you have up your sleeve.